We live in a community that hashes over how we do everything wrong. Turn on the evening news on any given day and you can hear about mistakes made,dating back several years. Especially during these political times! I will use a more recent example.
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| Not "those" officials- But real none the less |
I am still hearing on the news, radio, etc. about a San Antonio football game that happened weeks ago, where players attacked an official - perhaps at the instigation of their coach. Okay. How many times do I need to hear that? They have replayed the story over and over - talking about different angles -how it might have happened, what could have lead to it happening, etc.....BUT NEVER once have I heard them talk about this negative event in the context of what should have happened.
What do I mean? I mean just once, break down the situation and talk about an outcome with a different ending, once the alleged negative behavior has occurred.
The reason I point this out is - I believe this type of attitude plays forward in all types of scenarios in our lives. We have the communicators who speak aggressively rather than assertively. We have the managers/supervisors who may honestly believe they are addressing a problem by going over our mistake 50 different ways but never once stating how they would like to see it resolved. Or we have the parent personalizing behaviors instead of addressing problems. Just like we see on TV.
I don't know everything, and I am far from perfect, but when I error, I hope I error in kindness. My goal is, both to myself and others, visualize and then express what the expectation looks like. Anyone who knows me will tell you, some of my best explanations are given with an analogy.
Until next time,
#whatcanidodifferently
#whatcanyou?
your pal,
Kari
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